” I can’t care about that…”
A friend of mine was telling me how someone else perceives me. I appreciated the input because I’m not a sociopath (meaning I’m incapable of feeling one way or the other).
If there’s some kind of weirdo behavior that I’m exhibiting and someone else notices then I want to know.
The reason I said, “I can’t care about that” is quite simple:
I’m a recovering people pleaser.
In the situation being discussed, there was absolutely nothing I could do about this person’s perception.
So, I just can’t care.
The alternative is that I become an obsessive, anxious maniac who can’t function when said person is around.
No thank you. Not interested. Been there, bought the t-shirt.
We can’t control how others think of us. Even if we could control it, that’s not a healthy way to live.
I don’t want to be a robot, so everyone else has to be a robot? Where’s the health in that situation?
Perception is a double-edged sword.
You’re in denial if you think it’s possible to not have a perception about someone, yet you have to be on guard against faulty perception.
I have learned that a faulty perception is the first step toward a bad judgment.
I’m actually proud of myself today because I spotted a situation that is beyond my control, decided to let it go, and articulated why I was letting it go to someone else (i.e. my friend and now my readers).
This is a step in the right direction.