You don’t have to say everything that’s on your mind.
In fact, I highly encourage you not to say everything. The amount of trouble I’ve gotten myself into by sharing my opinion too openly is ridiculous.
Much of my heartache could’ve been avoided–if only I’d shut my mouth!
But there’s a flip side to this topic as well.
I also tend to not tell people how I really feel or think. The natural peacekeeper in me hates conflict of any kind.
And, no, I don’t have multiple personalities.
It’s just that I over talk about the trivial things and not say enough when it matters.
Can anyone else relate?
This is a real struggle for me.
I’ve bitten my tongue so hard it’s drawn blood when I needed to speak and then blabbed about something trivial–like a movie or a singer’s latest album–for several minutes.
Staying surface would be so much easier because there’s absolutely no risk. Funny, though, how you can’t talk about faith in Christ without going deep.
I’m not saying to shove religion down someone’s throat or to act like a weirdo with no social skills either.
The sincerity I’m referring to comes from being intimately seen and known:
- Your strengths and weaknesses are out in the open.
- You have nothing to hide and nothing to lose.
I’m not going to lie. This kind of intimacy frightens me. God and I continue to talk about this aspect of faith.
The Bible gives us clear instructions, which trumps any apprehensive emotions I experience.
We are called to live vulnerably.
Paul told the believers at Corinth to imitate me as I imitate Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1).
His life was an open book–on purpose.
I’m all about boundaries and I’m not promoting keeping toxic relationships on life support. However, our need for comfort and control is keeping us from being open.
We all talk about “being real” but do we really understand what this means?