I don’t have any kids of my own, but I strongly disagree with shame based parenting.
If your kid does something wrong, I agree there needs to be consequences.
You can discipline your kid, though, without humiliating them.
I read a story about a young girl who allegedly committed suicide after a video was posted online of her father cutting off her long hair. She was being punished for “getting messed up” which I think refers to drinking or doing drugs…not really sure.
Either way, I don’t know how cutting off her hair would help anything.
To be fair to the stories I read, the police are not connecting the suicide with the punishment. It does, however, bring up the conversation of shame based parenting.
Here’s some of the videos floating around YouTube this year:
- A parent encouraging a child to beat up a sibling
- Children standing at intersections holding up embarrassing signs
- Parents berating their children
I know we’ve talked about this before, but not everything has to be posted online!
Videoing someone on his or her death bed is inappropriate.
Live tweeting a funeral is inappropriate.
Videoing discipline is inappropriate.
Once again, not everything has to be posted online!
The fact that someone has to say “This, this, and this should be kept offline” is absurd.
Being vulnerable in today’s world is hard enough without the threat of your most intimate, sometimes heartbreaking moments being posted online for all the world to see.
And how would you feel knowing that the people who are supposed to love you the most–your parents–are trying to humiliate you?
ALWAYS think before you post.
- Will this content cause another to suffer?
- Why do I want to share this with others?
- What if it was me?
More reading:
http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/shame-parenting-expert-article-1.2347317
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sherrie-campbell-phd/inspire-healthy-self-este_b_6437472.html
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