We’ve all told a story and had someone pull a one up.
I’ve told a one up story or two or twenty….
It’s something that I am more conscious of now as I hang out with friends because there’s nothing worse than being one upped.
No one likes a One Upper either.
Here’s an example:
I went fishing this summer and caught two (small) large mouth bass–my first–along with a few brim and trash fish. It was a big deal for me! I was excited. Pictures were taken and hoorahs were shared with my family.
A few days later, I told an acquaintance about the trip.
“That’s nothing. I’ve caught 25 fish during one trip.”
I had to admit their story was better.
Fishing is something I enjoy, but I’m not very good at it. I could’ve caught a lot of fish that day. However, my dead cat like reflexes, combined with being distracted by the beauty of the scene around me, meant that many fish passed me by (after eating my bait, of course).
I was still proud, though, of my two fish.
My conversation ended like this:
“Wow. It sounds like you had a great time. I’m pretty sure I haven’t caught 25 fish in my lifetime. But I am proud of my haul. I had fun too.”
Remember how I told you perfectionism is the enemy?
Comparison is an enemy too.
Someone will always be bigger, better, prettier, more talented, and smarter than you.
But what the world needs is for you to show up.
There’s only one ____________ (insert your name here).
You are special.
I know it’s easy to forget–I do it all the time!
Some days it feels like I’m the most average, boring person in the world.
But that is not true.
Put your measuring stick away.
You are special.
You are enough.